This would have had me crucified on tumblr 10 years ago but maybe we are ready for this conversation now:
If you are a socially anxious person, you have to socialize. Your panic/anxiety attacks will only get worse and trigger more frequently if you constantly avoid contact with The Public. Not saying that you need to be a social butterfly- but there is a genuine problem with not being able to order your own meal at a restaurant. And it cannot be solved by always having someone else do it for you.
This is a PSA to about 3/4s of the Portland Youth populace
everyone who reblogs this and is like “I ordered my own tea this week” or “I only barfed once when I had to give a presentation’- you are doing amazing sweetie. Have patience with yourself, you are relearning a skill so difficult that people get 4 year degrees to do it professionally.
I love you ao3, I love you dead dove, I love you dark and fucked up ships, I love you weird and unusual kinks, I love you porn without plot, I love you unapologetic violent fiction, I love you horror, I love you splatterpunk, I love you unreliable narrators, I love you morally gray characters, I love you characters with no morals whatsoever, I love you authors that write whatever you want, I love you authors who don’t stop others from writing whatever they want, I love you readers with critical thinking skills, I love you media literacy
I wanted the movie to test the capabilities of every single craft in moviemaking. There are huge sets, huge props, complex wardrobe. I wanted it to feel like an old movie that was made in the heyday of Hollywood. Luscious, and beautiful, and operatic and all that. […] ‘cause I didn’t want the audiance to go, “Oh, it’s digital,” because once you introduce that, it’s like a license for people not to believe things. […] If you do it for real, people have a sense.
I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.
Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!
Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don’t treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.
No, you don’t have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.
It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.
Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.
I’m filling out forms for a doctor’s appointment and they want me to list any family members who have had various conditions, like diabetes, various cancers, or if they’ve got “healthy”.
apparently being healthy is a serious medical condition now
also any form that asks you if you’re sexually active and then wants to know what birth control you use should include “homosexuality”, “no one involved has a uterus”, “it’s not that kind of sex” as options.
I mean if you’re going to list 16 different methods you clearly are trying to be comprehensive, so lets not kid ourselves about what options are out there
they also make me check which genders I’ve had sex with and only offer the vintage genders. come on, I’m not even binary, why are you assuming everyone I’ve had sex with can easily be slotted into a male or female box?
IT’S 2025, WE HAVE MORE SEXES AND GENDERS THAN THAT
contraceptive method
* other, list here: [i only have sex with people who are already pregnant so it’s not possible for me to get them more pregnant *shrug*]
they have a section called “Social History - Other Factors” and give me various options, like:
military service
sleep concern (?)
exercise (are they asking if I have a history of exercise?)
bike helmet (???)
caffeine
neurotypical fuckers are always like “autistic people have trouble following directions” and then hand me a form that asks if I have a history of bike helmet
well, do you?
mind your own business, that’s protected personal medical information
This person wrote a manifesto I ain’t reading all that but this is literally the type of behavior im talking about the idea hobbies all cost money is so removed from reality if you have the time to pick up your phone and write 7 paragraphs on how im victimizing you with my offhanded post you have the time to watch a movie on YouTube with your very same phone instead come on now. How is you freaking out on the internet helping any of these issues
things that dont cost money: hiking, walking, birdwatching, identifying plants, drawing (you have a pen, reading (library), collecting rocks, dancing, singing…. etc wtc etc
if you cant find a hobby you can afford, thats a you problem. and if youre posting online, you have a device to do that, get some free games, trawl wikipedia, study something. stop picking fights online and do something else.
if you can write an essay about it on your phone you can write fanfic or poetry or something on your phone also and it will be much nicer for everyone involved, including you
i don’t understand a single sentence in this and i’m ok with that
I haven’t stopped saying “it’s called quantum jumping, babe”
I would genuinely like to know who to blame for making these children so disconnected from the concept of imagination that they think the simpler explanation for what they’re doing is that they’re projecting their consciousness into one of infinite realities where fictional characters are real.
